1. Men are Visual not Audio
Visual
things stimulate men. This is why they watch porn, this is why they like their
girlfriends to wear skimpy clothes. They like to see and by seeing first, they
experience the other senses, like smell and taste. This is also why you should
have the light on when you have sex, because by seeing you, they get turned on.
If you like having sex with the lights switched off, then ask yourself: do you
want your boyfriend to think of some other hot woman that he saw in a magazine
or do you want him to look at you and not be able to think of anything else?
So, if seeing is believing, then believe in yourself and let him see you.
Women are more auditory. This is why women talk so much. Men look at things all day
long, but there is no sound in looking. Women need the same level of
stimulation, they just get it in different ways. So, women end up nagging. Because if
talking doesn’t work, cause he switches off, then the next step surely, is
repeating what you’ve just said in an angry tone and a raised voice. Or Not.
What to do:
What if you could get out of your man simple things like taking out the trash? Cooking
tonight? Dishwashing? Cleaning? All of those things can be achieved by training
your man. Like a dog. I am by no means saying to treat your man like a dog.
Just train him like one.
Be simple and concise in your instructions. Use written instructions if you want
things done properly - draw a simple diagram. Pick up the trash, take the bin
out = happy girlfriend. And make this his ultimate goal every time. Then, on a separate piece of paper write happy girlfriend = sex.
This is coming from a girl who is a firm believer in feminism. But don’t forget that
feminism is equal pay, right to vote and right to education, amongst others.
What I am talking about here is recognising that men and women are genetically
different, they perceive the world different and respond to the world in
different ways from eachother and use this knowledge to your advantage.
2. Men are practical, linear and live more in the present than women
For a man, things are very simple and linear. They think of one thing at a time, including eating, having sex or sleeping. According to research, men think of sex twice as much as women (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-sexual-continuum/201112/how-often-do-men-and-women-think-about-sex). How often do you think of sex every day, along with other 1,000 things that you have to do?
girlfriends to wear skimpy clothes. They like to see and by seeing first, they
experience the other senses, like smell and taste. This is also why you should
have the light on when you have sex, because by seeing you, they get turned on.
If you like having sex with the lights switched off, then ask yourself: do you
want your boyfriend to think of some other hot woman that he saw in a magazine
or do you want him to look at you and not be able to think of anything else?
So, if seeing is believing, then believe in yourself and let him see you.
Women are more auditory. This is why women talk so much. Men look at things all day
long, but there is no sound in looking. Women need the same level of
stimulation, they just get it in different ways. So, women end up nagging. Because if
talking doesn’t work, cause he switches off, then the next step surely, is
repeating what you’ve just said in an angry tone and a raised voice. Or Not.
What to do:
What if you could get out of your man simple things like taking out the trash? Cooking
tonight? Dishwashing? Cleaning? All of those things can be achieved by training
your man. Like a dog. I am by no means saying to treat your man like a dog.
Just train him like one.
Be simple and concise in your instructions. Use written instructions if you want
things done properly - draw a simple diagram. Pick up the trash, take the bin
out = happy girlfriend. And make this his ultimate goal every time. Then, on a separate piece of paper write happy girlfriend = sex.
This is coming from a girl who is a firm believer in feminism. But don’t forget that
feminism is equal pay, right to vote and right to education, amongst others.
What I am talking about here is recognising that men and women are genetically
different, they perceive the world different and respond to the world in
different ways from eachother and use this knowledge to your advantage.
2. Men are practical, linear and live more in the present than women
For a man, things are very simple and linear. They think of one thing at a time, including eating, having sex or sleeping. According to research, men think of sex twice as much as women (http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-sexual-continuum/201112/how-often-do-men-and-women-think-about-sex). How often do you think of sex every day, along with other 1,000 things that you have to do?
Men don’t do subtlety, they don’t imply or make complex judgements about life, love or relationships. Men concentrate on the present day, on the right now. This is why most men are not so stressed as women are, who worry about 10,000 years in the past and 10,000 years in the future. Understand that about yourself and about how immediate men are. They think in simple logical structures which most of the time are devised into Yes and No possible answers. This is why men are good at following orders in institutional structures such as the army.
What to do:
Give a man a straight-forward order, but with a smile on your face – you’ll get him to do anything. Even the inversed doggy-style: him on all fours and you riding on him throughout the house – just tell him you’ll be naked.
3. Men are not so emotional as women
Mostly because of our hormones, women tend to express feelings more easily than men. The main difference here is that men don’t fall in love that easy, but when they do, they stay there. Men are a bit obsessive-compulsive that way. They find a girl and they just don’t let go. Women, on the other hand, fall in and out of love all the time, with various men and in various scenarios, most of these making no sense to any observer. When it comes to love, women are instinctual and rely on their gut feeling a lot. But just as fast as you’ve fallen in love, a girl can just change her mind.
What to do:
Embrace
the difference, but don’t go overboard with it. You will probably love a guy a
lot faster than he will love you back.
If you like a guy, understand that you need to be patient. Once he’s
yours, it’s a lot harder to lose him.
4. The reason men are bad
Because they have, once upon a time, loved a girl so much and that girl broke their heart in a very dramatic way. This is when they decided they are never going to be treated like that again. So they go through a what-I-would call semi-gay phase. They hate girls and start sleeping with girls to prove to themselves that they are so much better. There are of course certain people who actually realise they don’t like girls that much anyway and would much rather prefer men.
But some straight men, leave the semi-gay phase to actually grow up, while others don’t.
What to do: don’t try to turn a bad guy into a good one. That never works. A bad guy will stay bad for as long as he wants. The turning around your life for a girl only happens in films and in a few cases when the guy is actually looking for an excuse to change. But, in most cases, if the guy is damaged goods, take him out with the rubbish.
5. At heart, all men are kids
They like toys, they like to play putting things together, gather with their friends and have silly little games or never talk about anything important. Men like to be messy and don’t see any problem with dirt, mud or any other form of a yucky thing. In fact, the messier they get, the happier they are.
What to do:
Accept them for who they are and give them the freedom to play. Like a taking a dog out for a walk – there is no point in keeping him on a leash, you have to let him run around otherwise what is the point in taking him to the park?
4. The reason men are bad
Because they have, once upon a time, loved a girl so much and that girl broke their heart in a very dramatic way. This is when they decided they are never going to be treated like that again. So they go through a what-I-would call semi-gay phase. They hate girls and start sleeping with girls to prove to themselves that they are so much better. There are of course certain people who actually realise they don’t like girls that much anyway and would much rather prefer men.
But some straight men, leave the semi-gay phase to actually grow up, while others don’t.
What to do: don’t try to turn a bad guy into a good one. That never works. A bad guy will stay bad for as long as he wants. The turning around your life for a girl only happens in films and in a few cases when the guy is actually looking for an excuse to change. But, in most cases, if the guy is damaged goods, take him out with the rubbish.
5. At heart, all men are kids
They like toys, they like to play putting things together, gather with their friends and have silly little games or never talk about anything important. Men like to be messy and don’t see any problem with dirt, mud or any other form of a yucky thing. In fact, the messier they get, the happier they are.
What to do:
Accept them for who they are and give them the freedom to play. Like a taking a dog out for a walk – there is no point in keeping him on a leash, you have to let him run around otherwise what is the point in taking him to the park?
As
long as they are fed, spoilt and taken care of, in healthy quantities that they
will not take for granted, men will repay you back by offering you what you
need.
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